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Stoicism, the right way.


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Why do some things affect us more than others? A friend of mine once told me that the things that affect us emotionally the most, are the parts of ourselves that we need to work  the most on ourselves as there is something unresolved within us in that specific area.hydra

Unconsciously we want  and maintain behaviors in real life that consciously we deny or hate. It can be anything, maybe you hate your job, and you know what you have to do to get a better one or to start one yourself, but you don’t. Unconsciously you are looking for something there, maybe protection. Many of the situations in our lives are because of this, fears that we don’t even know are there. I had one of these experiences today as I woke up and I can tell you friend that the unconscious is real, very, very real.

I have used stoicism to make my life better, and it has become better in many ways.

Stoicism makes you a person of grit, but today I had a realization that took my understanding of stoicism a bit deeper.light_in_dark

Stoicism can help you deal with all of  your problems. It helps you transcend them and transendance of oneself and obstacles most be stoicism’s aim.

Because, it can be used incorrectly.

How? Let’s suppose that you are in a situation in your life that you personally don’t like or that you like but that you don’t really know the why of it.

It can be your work, you fill pissed about it, but you don’t do anything to change it. We can make excuses and rationalize that we are too tired to do something else in the day, but, unconsciously, maybe that’s just what we want (feeling protected and not being responsibles for ourselves, just blaming everything but oursleves).

Maybe we just want protection from the world and we take the job and the boss as a father, just changing some figures for others, as long as it fills the role hey.

Maybe it’s something that we like, like, commonly , a romantic relationship, and you love it. Because, consciously we justify it with feelings of “love” but maybe unconsciously we want another figure, some oedipus complex (our mother role), I know it sounds weird but you are looking for the role to be filled, nothing else. Love most come from yourself, if we demand it, we are not really in love, we just want something. 

So, you and me need to figure out what is happening, and make the unconscious, tumblr_neyqf51MMC1qmbg8bo1_500conscious. Face our fears, our inner fears and our core fears so we can transcende them.

Stoicism however can be understood in many forms, think about it, it can be counter beneficial for you, if we use it to justify our actions based on fear, thinking that we are acting courageously (like enduring the job or painful relationship).

When it comes to make the decision to live courageously it means that we are acting from love, form amor fati. Fear and Amor fati are two very different things. If we, however  act from fear deep inside, like not pushing for a better job or not being as great as we can be, we are acting from fear.

If we stoically support our fears and live despicable lives because we do not consciously know what we are doing, we are using stoicism wrong, in fact, it is not stoicism, it is just a justification to keep on the petty behavior.

Stoicism acts from love and courage and most of the time we think that there are challenges outside ourselves, but no. They are never outside, remember what is it that we have control over, ourselves. We must face our inner fears and understand ourselves truly if we want to be truly stoic. We cannot have fear inside and courage outside, that’s just simply not stoicism.

We must have courage to live truly inside and outside. Pay very close attention to yourself, what you are doing in life and ask questions, whether stoicism is a deep core philosophy in yourself or just a facade to hide your inner child.

I wish you all the courage and greatness of a proud warrior friend.

Good morning

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29198Writting is a wonderful thing, it’s the materalization of speech, speech is what god used to create the earth and all the living things in it, so speech is good. Writting crystalizes the thoughts that we have in our heads and sets order in the constant chaotic flux of ideas that inhabit our heads.

Everyday, I try to write in the mornings for 10 minutes and then start my day. It’s free writting, I can talk really about anything and am not constricted by anything, but today, today I lost all of my pens so I’m doing it right here, hey that is what a blog is for isn’t it, just for the world to see your thoughts.

A blog, if personal, is very intimate. Not a lot of readers come to read anyone’s blog and that is magical. Why do some persons feel attracted to other persons? what do we see hear or read in each other that makes us feel attracted towards them?

I believe we see ourselves in others, all the time. For the better and for the worst, you see, we do not really know anyone as well as we know ourselves and what we do is that we project what we like and what we don’t like of us in others.

Interesting thought isn’t it? I simply love that way of seeing, because it is practical. Do you remember the saying? “The best revenge is not being as the one that injured you”? Well it is precisely this, if we see something bad in someone, or worst, someone did something bad to us, that is a chance to go inside ourselves and see what needs to get some work done, it puts light in our own problems and mishandlings, and that way we can begin to fix them. We do not become what we hate , and that truly is the best revenge.

10 minutes are over, I’ll put this on the category of shot morning writtings. I appreciate the time you took to read this and wish you a terrific day friend.

Good Morning!