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Self-ownership


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Everyday I write, I find a stoic answer useful to me. I really do hope (even though hope is not stoic, ha) that you find something useful as I write this letters.
Have you ever felt yourself, as being your own man?

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What is that feeling like to you?
I believe it is amazing. It can be described as the ultimate freedom, completely non-dependant on anything. It’s a soul that is happy within itself and that prays for nothing more than for what it already has. A feeling of ease and security permeates the body and nothing external can make you want anything else but being your own man.
It’s easy to be your own man in your bedroom, or when you are alone, but what happens when we meet other people? Say, when we get to a bar and it’s full and we lost our friends? I can say I have felt anxiety in those situations. But why? Because we care to much about others and wish to feel secure in the crowd, unable to stand erect by ourselves.

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With self-ownership, we don’t need much company, we certainly can have it and enjoy it, but we don’t need it. Everytime we feel alone or anxious, we are asking for someone else or something (like our phone) for protection or entertainment. We do not feel ourselves to be good company, and that is why we are constantly searching everywhere but inside.
I once read that one of the characteristics of James Bond was that he is so comfortable in his own body, it hurts. This is an amazing ability, to be comfortable in any situation with the only person that is needed, ourselves. This is what “the answer is never outside” means.
This advice is priceless.

“There is a time in every man’s education when he arrives at the conviction that envy is ignorance; that imitation is suicide; that he must take himself for better, for worse, as his portion; that though the wide universe is full of good, no kernel of nourishing corn can come to him but through his toil bestowed on that plot of ground which is given to him to till. The power which resides in him is new in nature, and none but he knows what that is which he can do, nor does he know until he has tried.”

Ralph Waldo Emerson, Self Reliance

The world is composed of individuals and everyone is looking for happiness, in his won unique way. Your way is unique to you, nobody can decide for you and you are not a child anymore.
There is a question though, should we just discard every opinion and live in a world alone in a cave, and be happy just with ourselves? Of course not.
We have to be first masters of ourselves so we can relate to others in more meaningful

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ways, with truth in our side. Every person that lives his truth, functions like a light that illuminates other persons. As we go through the world in this manner, we are illuminating more people into freedom.
Free from being affected form societies, parents or anyone else judgment. To be our masters must be our aim.
People need, wish hope for leaders. A leader is a person that owns himself and that can articulate what he wants, and I’m going to be a bit harsh here, but to tell the truth, nobody knows what they want. People just seek to be told what to do.
Don’t be that kind of person, find joy as a stoic within yourself and share it.
I will appropriate other man’s words, just as Seneca did.
This words are from Seneca, ha.

” Live among men as if God beheld you; speak with God as if men were listening ”
Seneca

Today on Valentine’s day, Love your partner. But do it from the right position, from your truth.

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Meaning and friendship


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Inspiration is not to be seeked, inspiration just comes whenever she wants, no force is needed as we should know that she will eventually come. Where does inspiration comes from?

There is inspiration in fear, for fear of something happening we move, that is pretty good if a lion is chasing us, only the fear inspired are among us now. But, where else? When have been the times you have been the most inspired in your life? What is is that makes that inner rabbit run maddily happy?3756898604d4543011b2069bcb20986b

In truth it comes when we set our minds to do something, that sparks comes with our choosing, like right now as I was trying to write things about inspiration I was precisely trying, not actually writing. This is the secret, we do not look for inspiration, we just set ourselves to do something and do it, badly and ugly at first but eventually good and inspired.

This led me to think about the phrase of “do not try to be the man, be the man”. Time, time runs oh so fast and we get older and older without notice. All the time waste it thinking that there’s plenty and that someday we’ll be able to be something or someone, but what we don’t realize, is that that time will never arrive, the decision is made now, that is why if you are going to “be the man/ athlete / artist, you have to be it and embodied it right now, do not wait for inspiration, it will come eventually.

The following situation happens a lot in my life. I happen to be with a group of people, smoking or having a beer, other times giving a beer tasting to bartenders. Then we start talking more deeply, searching for some of the truths in life, and from time to time, aeaehwtsomeone says something very personal and very, very deep or happens to know about the topic a lot so he comments on something pretty witty, and what happens next is that you see his partners dragging him down on his wittiness. You can literally see that people do not stand someone being a bit better. Humiliation and laughter comes to those who want to achieve greatness, not for nothing it is commonly said that it is very lonely up there.

This makes total sense, in modern world, no one chooses something for themselves, everything is prechoosed, it takes guts and courage to speak for oneself and from truth. It takes guts and courage to start a business and be successful against all odds and people don’t like to be reminded of unsuccessfulness for lack of courage and determination. This lead me to think, that the path of greatness, has a lot of tears in it, of joy and of sadness, but oh what a wonderful path, the path of truth.

It is hard to find friends, true friends wish you the best, and the themselves wish the best Amor-Fati-1024x680for them as well. J. Peterson says that if you would not have a “friend” of yours be friend of your family, why are you friend with him anyways? A true friend is someone that pushes you to the top, you see, what do you prefer, being dragged down or being pulled down?

I wish we could all help to pull us up a bit everyday, that is a good aim.

Good morning Friend, Thank you for reading.