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Virtue is the sole good


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What is the ultimate goal? When is it that you finally “made it”? Is it maybe when you finish school? When you marry? When you have children? When you retire? Please think, when is it that you’ll say: I’m complete, now I can start living as intended, as it is supposed to be. When is that time coming?

Let me tell you a secret, that moment is never going to arrive.

It may seem as so, when we get success or a great relationship or something but just as trainthat came, another thing will come after that will promise us the same thing: completion.

We are never going to be complete, we are never going to be perfect. We will never have our life in complete order. Change will do what it does best, change everything. If your relationships are great but you become too comfortable, they will start fail. If your business is doing great and you stop putting attention to it, it will too surely fail. If you don’t take care of your body, daily, you’ll die quicker.

Does this sounds a bit to harsh? A bit to real? Well, It’s better to be informed. What then, is worthy?

Virtue is the supreme good. I want to make something clear.

_84010986_zeno-chest-976What do you understand for virtue? In our times, virtue can sound lame right? Like, there are so many cool things out there constantly appearing on facebook and instagram. Friends at the beachor hot women everywhere on instagram. Our friends are marrying and the photos show just pure joy and love. Dan Bilzerian riding a tank with a chick on his side. We see perfect lives everywhere, everywhere we look it looks like people has made it. And what does virtue offer? how in the world can virtue be the supreme good? This is a very, very, good question.

When we see all this amazing stuff in social media we fall into a trap, the trap of completion. This trap tells us that when we have achieved, the success, the marriage, that trip or anything else, then we’ll be complete. The secret is as we already know, that there is no completion, that is a game we are never going to win. Even getting all that stuff will not be fun and we will not be able to enjoy it if we remain in that state of mind.

If we are never going to be complete while pursuing all that amazing stuff, what then? We have to realize that how we are right now, with imperfections and everything, is enough. We have already arrived. There is no more running. Virtue is the only good and you have it right now. You don’t need to wait to have all that stuff, and you can be who you want to be right now. This is why virtue is the sole good, this is what being virtuous means. Being a virtuous man means not getting played with the game everyone is playing like mindless rats running the endless circle.

What is the answer then? Not wanting anything and just being content with a smile all the time? not pursuing anything?

Not at all. We can have all that stuff but we do not longer seek it to feel we are enough or complete. We focus more on the process, on the journey than in the goal itself. Only then can we start truly living. Only then can we be free to do what is actually important, not being limited by some worldly thing but being able to grab all those things from the abundance of our soul. All those things become a bonus, not an end to pursue. This is Freedom.

Once we start truly living, we see life for what it is, magnificence. Such an infinitesimal universe-explosion-star-flowersprobability that we are blessed to have.

For this reason I am all the more angry that some men claim the major portion of this time for superfluous things,—time which, no matter how carefully

it is guarded, cannot suffice even for necessary

things. Seneca

Once we realize that our life is now and not in some other place in the future, our time becomes precious. We realize that it is now that we live, not at some other point in time. This knowledge is essential. What is important now? To live as fully as possible.

Bring it to pass that I shall cease trying

To escape from death, and that life may cease to escape from me.

Seneca

We have to accept death in our lives. It can be today, or it can be tomorrow or ten years from now. But we have to accept that there is no time, there is no time to waste, waiting for something to truly start living.

It is not everywhere that death shows himself so near at hand ; yet everywhere he is as near at hand.

Seneca

Those amazing projects you have in mind? The time is now.

That girl you want to ask out? The time is now.

“If we take eternity to mean not infinite temporal duration but timelessness, then eternal life belongs to those who live in the present.”

Ludwig Wittgenstein

Only when you accept death, you will stop escaping life.

Open your eyes to infinity. Accept that you are enough as imperfect as you are right now  and strive forever to perfection. This is what being a human being is all about.

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Stoicism, the right way.


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Why do some things affect us more than others? A friend of mine once told me that the things that affect us emotionally the most, are the parts of ourselves that we need to work  the most on ourselves as there is something unresolved within us in that specific area.hydra

Unconsciously we want  and maintain behaviors in real life that consciously we deny or hate. It can be anything, maybe you hate your job, and you know what you have to do to get a better one or to start one yourself, but you don’t. Unconsciously you are looking for something there, maybe protection. Many of the situations in our lives are because of this, fears that we don’t even know are there. I had one of these experiences today as I woke up and I can tell you friend that the unconscious is real, very, very real.

I have used stoicism to make my life better, and it has become better in many ways.

Stoicism makes you a person of grit, but today I had a realization that took my understanding of stoicism a bit deeper.light_in_dark

Stoicism can help you deal with all of  your problems. It helps you transcend them and transendance of oneself and obstacles most be stoicism’s aim.

Because, it can be used incorrectly.

How? Let’s suppose that you are in a situation in your life that you personally don’t like or that you like but that you don’t really know the why of it.

It can be your work, you fill pissed about it, but you don’t do anything to change it. We can make excuses and rationalize that we are too tired to do something else in the day, but, unconsciously, maybe that’s just what we want (feeling protected and not being responsibles for ourselves, just blaming everything but oursleves).

Maybe we just want protection from the world and we take the job and the boss as a father, just changing some figures for others, as long as it fills the role hey.

Maybe it’s something that we like, like, commonly , a romantic relationship, and you love it. Because, consciously we justify it with feelings of “love” but maybe unconsciously we want another figure, some oedipus complex (our mother role), I know it sounds weird but you are looking for the role to be filled, nothing else. Love most come from yourself, if we demand it, we are not really in love, we just want something. 

So, you and me need to figure out what is happening, and make the unconscious, tumblr_neyqf51MMC1qmbg8bo1_500conscious. Face our fears, our inner fears and our core fears so we can transcende them.

Stoicism however can be understood in many forms, think about it, it can be counter beneficial for you, if we use it to justify our actions based on fear, thinking that we are acting courageously (like enduring the job or painful relationship).

When it comes to make the decision to live courageously it means that we are acting from love, form amor fati. Fear and Amor fati are two very different things. If we, however  act from fear deep inside, like not pushing for a better job or not being as great as we can be, we are acting from fear.

If we stoically support our fears and live despicable lives because we do not consciously know what we are doing, we are using stoicism wrong, in fact, it is not stoicism, it is just a justification to keep on the petty behavior.

Stoicism acts from love and courage and most of the time we think that there are challenges outside ourselves, but no. They are never outside, remember what is it that we have control over, ourselves. We must face our inner fears and understand ourselves truly if we want to be truly stoic. We cannot have fear inside and courage outside, that’s just simply not stoicism.

We must have courage to live truly inside and outside. Pay very close attention to yourself, what you are doing in life and ask questions, whether stoicism is a deep core philosophy in yourself or just a facade to hide your inner child.

I wish you all the courage and greatness of a proud warrior friend.

Good morning

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