Getting lost to find yourself

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There are times in life we feel lost, utterly lost.225px-Magritte_TheSonOfMan

I’ve certainly had a few of those. They are not pretty, I think so because we are alone during those times.

No one can really tell us what to do. Really, nobody knows us as well as oursleves and if we don’t know what to do or where to go, how the hell is somebody else going to know?

This are the times in our lives when the saying  “Sometimes you have to lose yourself to find yourself” fits perfectly, because indeed, that is what happens.

What does that phrase means

Sometimes we have to lose ourselves in order to find ourselves.

What do you guess? Think of a time in you life when you felt lost. I can give some examples. Are you happy in your job? Are you happy with yourself? Right now, do you feel amazing of waking up tomorow for work? Ha, if not, I’m guessing you are a bit lost.

2630429-ZUXILJLB-7Good! Being lost most be a good thing isn’t it?! At least we now know we are on the task of finding oursleves.

Not long ago I had a girlfriend that always asked me what I wanted to do with my life. To be honest, my answers were lame, I really did not knew much about what I wanted to do and it was embarrasing to say the least.

One night I came home furious at myself and started to ask  what is it that I wanted to do with my life. Ha, I remember writing in a notebook random things that I wanted to do like climbing Mt. Everest and buy a Harley Davidson.

I felt lost.

With time I began to realize that the reason I was lost, was not because I did not knew what to do with my life, but because I had lost myself.I mean, think about it, I wanted to climb a fuckin mountain, for christ sake, as if that would gave me the deep meaning I had lost.

Once it got bad (depression level bad) I began to form a relationship with myself again. I began to understand myself in the process and discovered that wanting to do stuff is an excuse for not knowing who we are. I mean, sure, climbing a mountain is great, but what I really wanted to find up there was myself, my long forgotten self.

Being lost gets you in touch with yourself again. Feeling lost is something very, very personal. We all have different journys and I know it’s scary, I’ve been there myself.

People spend their lives in college and then at work and all the time we are told what tomonk praying cave do. People like being told what to do because taking decisions is scary. There is no ultimate answer for what you or anyone else have to do. I can tell you to live you life in this way or the other, but in ultimate instance, its your choice, you have to make a decision of what you like and what you think living is worth for.

Not until you are really lost you find yourself.

Finding yourself is amazing, you are no longer waiting for someone or something to show you the way.

Please sit and meditate on this. Develop a relationship with yourself and I promise that you will find your voice, your unique voice, and once you find it, you won’t want this amazing ride we are in to end.

Another thing

Don’t wait! People try to figure their whole lives what to do and by the time a decision is made, they’ve become older. Don’t let that happen. Get lost, find yourself.

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Stoic advice

Virtue is the sole good


What is the ultimate goal? When is it that you finally “made it”? Is it maybe when you finish school? When you marry? When you have children? When you retire? Please think, when is it that you’ll say: I’m complete, now I can start living as intended, as it is supposed to be. When is that time coming?

Let me tell you a secret, that moment is never going to arrive.

It may seem as so, when we get success or a great relationship or something but just as trainthat came, another thing will come after that will promise us the same thing: completion.

We are never going to be complete, we are never going to be perfect. We will never have our life in complete order. Change will do what it does best, change everything. If your relationships are great but you become too comfortable, they will start fail. If your business is doing great and you stop putting attention to it, it will too surely fail. If you don’t take care of your body, daily, you’ll die quicker.

Does this sounds a bit to harsh? A bit to real? Well, It’s better to be informed. What then, is worthy?

Virtue is the supreme good. I want to make something clear.

_84010986_zeno-chest-976What do you understand for virtue? In our times, virtue can sound lame right? Like, there are so many cool things out there constantly appearing on facebook and instagram. Friends at the beachor hot women everywhere on instagram. Our friends are marrying and the photos show just pure joy and love. Dan Bilzerian riding a tank with a chick on his side. We see perfect lives everywhere, everywhere we look it looks like people has made it. And what does virtue offer? how in the world can virtue be the supreme good? This is a very, very, good question.

When we see all this amazing stuff in social media we fall into a trap, the trap of completion. This trap tells us that when we have achieved, the success, the marriage, that trip or anything else, then we’ll be complete. The secret is as we already know, that there is no completion, that is a game we are never going to win. Even getting all that stuff will not be fun and we will not be able to enjoy it if we remain in that state of mind.

If we are never going to be complete while pursuing all that amazing stuff, what then? We have to realize that how we are right now, with imperfections and everything, is enough. We have already arrived. There is no more running. Virtue is the only good and you have it right now. You don’t need to wait to have all that stuff, and you can be who you want to be right now. This is why virtue is the sole good, this is what being virtuous means. Being a virtuous man means not getting played with the game everyone is playing like mindless rats running the endless circle.

What is the answer then? Not wanting anything and just being content with a smile all the time? not pursuing anything?

Not at all. We can have all that stuff but we do not longer seek it to feel we are enough or complete. We focus more on the process, on the journey than in the goal itself. Only then can we start truly living. Only then can we be free to do what is actually important, not being limited by some worldly thing but being able to grab all those things from the abundance of our soul. All those things become a bonus, not an end to pursue. This is Freedom.

Once we start truly living, we see life for what it is, magnificence. Such an infinitesimal universe-explosion-star-flowersprobability that we are blessed to have.

For this reason I am all the more angry that some men claim the major portion of this time for superfluous things,—time which, no matter how carefully

it is guarded, cannot suffice even for necessary

things. Seneca

Once we realize that our life is now and not in some other place in the future, our time becomes precious. We realize that it is now that we live, not at some other point in time. This knowledge is essential. What is important now? To live as fully as possible.

Bring it to pass that I shall cease trying

To escape from death, and that life may cease to escape from me.


We have to accept death in our lives. It can be today, or it can be tomorrow or ten years from now. But we have to accept that there is no time, there is no time to waste, waiting for something to truly start living.

It is not everywhere that death shows himself so near at hand ; yet everywhere he is as near at hand.


Those amazing projects you have in mind? The time is now.

That girl you want to ask out? The time is now.

“If we take eternity to mean not infinite temporal duration but timelessness, then eternal life belongs to those who live in the present.”

Ludwig Wittgenstein

Only when you accept death, you will stop escaping life.

Open your eyes to infinity. Accept that you are enough as imperfect as you are right now  and strive forever to perfection. This is what being a human being is all about.

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