Short mornings, Stoic advice

Antifragility of emotion


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I’m starting to love this brief moments of writing, it gives me context and understanding, I hope it brings the same to you, in your own personal way.

The other day I was reading Antifragile by Nassim Nicholas Taleb and he argued that hydra.jpgstoicism makes you emotionally antifragile, being antifragile means gaining from disorder and chaos. Stoicism deals with precisely this, it is a manner to embrace destiny, but taking it farther it benefits from destiny as you take it always as a chance to learn. Emotionally speaking, what happens when all emotions are welcomed? You become antifragile as all emotion is there to help you in some way.

Sometimes this does not seem so, sometimes depression, anger and lack of vitality don’t seem so much as an emotion that is trying to help us, I know. But feeling always great, which is what we are taught from very early ages, and today as well, is not what we naturally need. At least not in the way we are constantly showed.

Doing great things is not easy, setting a business up from the ground is hard job, maintaining it is more hard job. Having children is not easy, you have to work twice as hard and having a life with job and children, like climbing mount Everest or being a musician and a writer as well is not easy. You have to find time and you have to find effort, do you really think all these can be achieved feeling just fantastic all the time?

We are not made to have a smile the entire time on our faces, that is just a lie, a lie we tell ourselves because we are to afraid of not smiling all the time and be safe behind fake71+lnM2yVAL._SL1136_.jpg smiles and behaviors that are not even ours.

But this is not all bad, because, my friend, how else are we going to be real? What is real for you? or for me? what is better, a fake facade or the truth?

The truth is not bad emotion all the time, the truth in fact is liberating, but is going to be hard to be free if we do not let oursleves experience the whole range of emotion, emotion tells us a lot of things and denying it will not work, so what can we do as stoics, well, we can use it for us. This is antifragility, when we care too much about what other people think, we are fragile to their opinions, but, what if we didn’t, ancient wisdom knew how to take it: “Let them talk about me, good or bad, but keep them talking”.

Welcoming every emotion may seem counterintuitive, but really being with it and welcoming it and trying to use it as an ally will give you the jewels it has hidden. Only by taking this approach will the emotion (generally bad) will open up and give you the power it has hidden.

A stoic welcomes everything that happens gladly, this is why he is antifragile, he uses what fate throws upon him. When given Chaos and madness, he gladly molds it into order and brilliance, when given evil, he turns it into good. A stoic is antifragile to life, he is the light that do not fights evil, but uses it and turns it into light.

Just as the lotus flower is born from the mud, the stoic turns everything into virtue, and3756898604d4543011b2069bcb20986b for that he is happy, not from the outside situation, but for his ability to shine some light, where it is needed.

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A calmed mind


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What happens when you are really pissed, and you are a stoic, and you don’t know why you are so pissed, you write . Let’s see, there are many reasons to be pissed. Work doesn’t deliver the same in January, people say things you do not really agree with or find just disgusting. And so the list goes on and on and on and on.

Life can be so unfair, but is it? I mean really can you become so enraged as to make life responsible for not having everything as you would like it. That is definetly a wrong approach, because life will not change for me or for you, or for anyone.

So now, we’ve arrived into something useful, now is time to ask the question, what can we control? This is where stoicism kicks in.

Well, there are many obstacles, and the only way is the way trough them. Maybe amor fati is not what works best when you are pissed and trying to love everything will just make you as mad. but neverthless  those emotions need to be handled,

why are you so angry, what is it that you can’t have? Maybe it is a vacation, maybe it is a grand business maybe is success or I don’t know it can be anything. But there you are pissed like a child because you are not getting it, and worse you are pissed because you don’t know why you are so mad.

This is called growing up. All that we need is already there, but it is only just for the worthy, if the rage you feel inside you is something thats keeping you from going because you believe that everything should be easy, well, you are in for hell. Great things are not easy, they are hard and difficult and great inner power is needed to meet them.

Rage, shows you what, at least it gives you an aim, no emotion is bad emotion, they are all good if used properly.

Now that I’ve stumbled into this thoughts, some kind of wisdom came by, thank god. What if the things we want are not actually what we want? Say, go to Mount Kilimanjaro and climb it, having a Rolls Royce, saving poor people in Africa, writing a successful blog. All this wanting is ensalving, and god, I’m not praising not doing these things, that would be self-defeating. What I think we would all really like, is being capable of having all that, having it is one thing, it is a momentary pleasure, like sex, like food and climbing a mountain and screaming on top of it, it all ends at the moment. This is where we go from having, into being. What we want, what we really want, is being the kind of person that gets all that, now the power is shifted, that is someting that is in your power, right now. Unless we all make that big leap and realize the truth  of what we want, we are not going to be able to get all the “stuff” i was angry about for not getting.

We control what we are, right now. And anger and negative emotion gives us the hint, that we are not being as we should be, it is the necessary tension for walking the correct way. Obstacles, they are there for us to become what we need to become, obstacles are gods calling for greatness, it is him asking you to become great, to walk again with him, with paradise regained.