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Jocko Willink on Amor Fati


“My formula for greatness in a human being is amor fati: that one wants nothing to be different, not forward, not backward, not in all eternity. Not merely bear what is necessary, still less conceal it… but love it.”

Friederich Nietzche

Amor Fati is a complex and difficult concept to grasp, much more to accept. To love everything that happens seems counterintuitive when you first hear about it, but it’s the simply greatest piece of advice we can follow.

  • Love the fact that you and everyone you know is going to die.
  • Love getting fired.
  • Love feeling tired and having to work still.
  • Love your hangovers.

Not only being grateful but to actually love it.

Why do Amor fati works?

It works because it turns calamity upside down. It turns problems and adversities into blessings, blessings we welcome out of our own accord. This, obviously, requires mental strength, nobody is denying that. It requires to be strong enough to think logically and to boldly accept whatever situation or circumstance befalls upon us.

By loving everything that happens to you, you are preparing yourself to improve life and yourself in the process. You are changing your perception, the one thing that is within your power.

Intellect (perception)

Intellect has made of us the most dangerous and advanced creature on earth. Intellect is the power to bend perception to your benefit, to understand reality in a higher order. Currently, there is no stronger force in the planet than our capacity to mold reality to our benefit and this is where dear Jocko enters into the equation. In the next video, you’ll understand why:

This is Amor Fati at its best, it almost seems as a sort of twisted perversion, coming from Jocko, but it does the job nevertheless. Accept everything that happens, love it, for it is the seed of opportunity.

Life is dynamic

There is no “rest” in life. When you are sleeping, you are breathing, dreaming, digesting, you are always moving and changing. Amor Fati is accepting this reality, the reality that change is always happening and that reality will not stay static.

“Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.”

― Winston S. Churchill

By saying “good” you are already preparing yourself for the next step. You are already looking for the lesson that you can learn from the bad experience. This is how Amor Fati becomes priceless advice.

Become Frictionless

Amor Fati enforces you to become frictionless.

What do I mean by frictionless?

The moment you say “good”, you are already preparing yourself for the next round. In life you are going to go as far as you decide. Things need to get done, whatever happens, things need to get done. When something bad happens, like not getting promoted or not getting the funding you expected, there are two ways of dealing with it, with friction, or without friction.


This is focusing on the problem and on the “why” it can not be fixed, dreading it (not loving it). This, obviously creates frction, it creates friction on your endevours because you will be stuck for a while. You will be stuck until you realize the frictionless amor fati mode.

Frictionless Amor Fati

You could say, that living according to nature is living in a dynamic mode, just as life is. When you say “good” to a problem or situation and you focus on your next step you are moving forward with life. This is going with life instead of against life. 




The Ubermensch

The Ubermensch from Nietzche has to be Amor Fati exemplified, there is no higher order for a human being than living in accordance to the higher order which is nature. Fortunately, this superpower is available to every human being.

Love life, be strong, say “good” more often.


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Ricardo Guaderrama 20171003_180742

Master brewer at Querida Catalina, ultrarunner and stoic.


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Stoic Ju-jitsu, win the battle of the mind.

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Everything that happens is an opportunity for mastery.

Upon every accident, remember to turn towards yourself and inquire what faculty you have for its use. If you encounter a handsome person, you will find continence the faculty needed; if pain, then fortitude; if reviling, then patience. And when thus habituated, the phenomena of existence will not overwhelm you.

Enchiridion, Epictetus

Japanse martial art Ju-jitsu’s aim is to use the force of the enemy against him. Stoicism is Ju-jitsu in the mind’s realm.

Everything that happens in our lives can be used as practice to become better at practicing virtue. Just yesterday to give an example, I fell off my bike and pounded in the concrete really hard, I suffocated and didn’t really knew for a moment what was happening. Eventually, I got up and everything seemed ok, except my ragged T-shirt and blood in several parts of my body, oh and a severe muscle pain in my hip. I wasn’t going to write anything today but then I stumbled into this Epictetus quote and decided to use my pain to practice fortitude, so now I’m sitting writing with a severe hip pain, but quite happy about it. So, in a way, thanks to this hip pain, I can write about how I’m using it to get better at something else. Stoic Ju-jitsu.

Virtue is the sole good. That’s our aim.hydra

Hard choices easy life, easy choices hard life.

Our minds are the arena for vice and virtue. It is an endless battle that goes on and on and one that will never end until our lives come to an end.

But the mind and vice, more accurately, is extremely creative! The mind is always ready to offer us rationalizations as to why we can’t do something or why is better not to act and stay quiet.

This is extremely common in day to day practice. Has it ever happened to you that you realize in the morning that there are quite an amount of tasks that you need to get done to push forward on your life, important stuff rather than urgent stuff? But, then at the end of the day, you are just really tired and you really cannot set yourself to do anything other than relaxing and going to sleep?

At that moment, rationalizations come into play:

  • I’m too tired.
  • I’ll do it in the morning.
  • I have too many days left to finish it.
  • Someday.

Usually, that becomes a habit and nothing ever gets done. The next time you stumble into one of these situations practice Stoic Ju-jitsu.

Hard choices easy life, easy choices hard life, remember?

In the realm of the mind, stoic Ju-jitsu is practiced by using those rationalizations. Every “I can’t”, “later”, can be used as a sign that you need to actually do that which you least want to do. Use your rationalizations as signposts for action. Use them to practice your virtue.

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