Conquering Fears

Conquering Fears, Modern problems

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“Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity.” 
― Seneca

Have you ever thought: ‘Damn, I was such an idiot back then’?

I just did this morning, it made me laugh.

So, I suppose I’m smart and experienced now that I’m older right? Of course not. I’m sure I’m going to find myself saying the same thing in a couple of years. But being an idiot is not the issue here, the issue would be not learning in the way. Perfection is a myth, I’m sure you know that. What actually can be achieved at any moment is the striving for perfection. Always trying to be better but never actually reaching perfection.That is a good thing, cause we can keep playing the game, endlessly.

And how does one get good at this game? Who wins?

The fastest learner, you win by learning fast. This is hard because learning requires us to go into uncharted waters. We like the comfortableness of our identity and current knowledge and shun ‘rocking the boat’. But there is nothing more exiting and life-enhancing than expanding your knowledge, nothing better than growing. It seems that when it comes to learning, especially personal stuff, learning requires us to take a good look at our values, there is a lot of friction in doing that.

Here are two mindsets you have to get your hands on if you want to eliminate that friction and learn faster.

Embrace failure

You will never know what something feels like if you don’t put yourself out there. There will always be a kind of ‘jump’ you have to make, a kind of ‘fuck it, let’s do it’ decision.

Like jumping from an airplane (with a professional), a bungee, or from a cliff into the water, there is no thinking about it, you just have to jump.

“It is impossible for a man to learn what he thinks he already knows.” 
― Epictetus

One thing that helps is faith. But, faith as in Alan Watts description. The kind of faith were you ‘let go’. You can prepare yourself so much, but when it comes the time to jump, you have to let go and have faith.

Knowing this, know that.

Many, many times, you will fail. And this is a good thing, because you will have learned something. At least now you know how not to do something the next time, but without failure, you cannot really learn anything. Embrace failure.

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.” 
― Theodore Roosevelt

Search for believable advice

We like to talk our problems with everyone. Mom, dad, close friends and so on, but when it comes to actually learning something, you have to be more careful.

“Opinions are a dime a dozen and nearly everyone will share theirs with you. Many will state them as if they are facts. Don’t mistake opinions for facts.” – Ray Dalio

It’s important to ask yourself first, what it is that I need to learn? And second, who can I ask that is believable, that I know for certain is right?

By doing this you’ll go not for the comfort that your mom or friend give you but for the truth. If something hurts, it is probably good medicine, and you know you have to take your medicine.

Learning how to learn is possibly the greatest skill you can get in life. So don’t hesitate! Grab a book, subscribe to a course or take the initiative and make that reading group with your friends. You can start with Marcus Aurelius.


If you want to learn more, I recommend Ray Dalio’s book <a href="http://<a href="http://<a target="_blank" href="">Principles: Life and WorkPrinciples.

a great complement to this read: Start

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Conquering Fears

The Obstacle Is The Way

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No wonder Ryan Holiday chose this title for his book.

The Obstacle Is The Way, always, always, always, always, always.

Do you have something bugging you in your head? Taxes? Your economy? Come on, I’m sure there is something, there is always something. The truth is that there is nothing to do about it but to confront it.

Years can go by without us confronting what needs to be confronted and in our minds, we think that nothing happens, “I’m just going to let it go”. Sometimes that is the best way forward, but other times what’s happening is that we are just postponing our advancement in life, just staying stuck for the lack of courage to make a decision of what is it going to happen with what we know needs to be addressed.

So, the best we (you) can do is to confront it.

Now, there are different ways of confronting what needs to be confronted. What’s the best way? The way of reason of course.

Sometimes our problems keep being problems because we are just lazy thinkers. Lazy to grab a book on the subject and figure the best way to deal with whatever problem you have.

I assure you, whichever “insurmountable” (sometimes they are insurmountable, trust me I know, excuse the sarcasm) problem you may have, has already been experienced and solved by someone else. I assure you that there is a book pertaining to the problem you have and how he or she solved it.

We are all different, but, we are also very, very alike. This is for our benefit, as there are literally thousands of books that can aid you in whichever obstacle you found yourself at the moment.

So, now that we know that any obstacle you’ll ever have has already happened to someone before you and that you can deal with it with the help of us, your fellow humans. There is one more thing you need to know.

And that is.

Will and faith. 

Will and faith. You need to make the decision to engage, to begin, to make the google search, anything, but begin and then to prepare. Once you feel that you are prepared and ready to take the difficult conversation or begin that business, brother, you need to have faith. Not faith as in wishing to go in a certain way, but Alan Watts faith, the type of faith were you “Let go”. Once you’ve done your research, your reading, you need to engage. How will you know you will be successful, you don’t. That’s why faith is for, I hope you win, I really do, but, if you don’t, well, the obstacle will still be the way. 

You may be having the best time of your life, you may be going through a rough spot, either way, there is always a way forward. You know where that way lies for you.

Lastly, Goethe.

“As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live.” 
Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

a great complement to this read: Start

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