Author: RicardoGuaderrama

Short mornings, Stoic advice

Digging up Amor fati


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To love everything that happens, that is a pretty harsh statement. What I ask myself, is what does loving truly means? What is the concept of love we currently have in our heads?

I believe the type of love we have in our heads is romantic love, romantic love is beatiful and very powerful, it makes man move mountains and more often than not, suffers a man or a woman into change.

I really do not believe that romantic love has anything to do with Amor fati, which is a greatest concept. Think about it, Yoda has a lot to say in this ancient stoic teaching. Let’s solve this problem with the concept of love and fear (fear being the dark path, and love the jedi’s) Or as Einstein famously said, “The most important decision we can make in our lives, is wether we see the universe as friendly or as an enemy”.

Love cannot exist where fear exist, to love everything that happens, a stoic most be fearless. If this is true, love cannot be dependant on anything but on the stoic himself, a stoic most love everything without expecting nothing back, like the sun, a stoic most give his light and that is it.

Now, this sounds more like amor fati. Amor-Fati-1024x680

Amor Fati makes the stoic love everything, everything is to be treated as something lovable, and so the right action comes from that mindset. First, a stoic comes into the realization that to love everything, makes everything better. That is the first part, next comes what the stoics love more. Action.

The search for truth is a paramount stoic virtue. The world is composed of tools and obstacles to3.-Ciseri_L-Esule.jpg reach truth, every tool, wether it is mental or it is physical or emotional aids us in our struggle to overcome obstacles. The obstacle is the way, what impedes the way, becomes the way.

It becomes easy to understand life if we look at it with the right perspective, you can use this as a tool. Amor fati, first decide to love everything and treat it as such. Just as we love our children, we want what is better for them, so no they cannot have candy all the time, and so with life we act to make it better in every possible way. The search for truth, shows us the way, the search for our inner truth and truth in general functions like a a beacon the illuminates our way in the darkness, and finally the obstacles, which makes us stronger to face the next one, nothing is to be discarded, everything is necessary for our development, and if we choose to accept it and to love it, I believe you and I are in for a good ride.

Thank you for reading friend.

Have a great morning and love like the sun, be like the sun.

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Reflections, Stoic advice

Self-tyranny


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I assume that most people live in this way, most of us I think live as Venezuela, our egos, our great egos function as the ruler of our being and mandates its desires. Self tyranny is an interesting concept. I was reading Jordan B. Peterson 12 rules for life the other day and got hooked with this finding. We care more for our dogs and for others than for ourselves. A study was done measuring what happens when a dog or a person gets sick.

When a person gets sick, just as the dog we take medication to get better. Science and doctors agree that it is best to take the medicine at some specific and constant cyclyc hours. The study found that when a dog or a pet was sick, the medicine time was fairly better respected than when the human got sick and basically took it whenever he or she wanted.

Why is this? Why do we care more for our pets than for ourselves? Jordan Peterson argues that we know ourselves to well, we know every misbehavior, every imperfection, just everything. So, we feel as if we need to rule over ourselves, rule over this creature that does everything against us and so we use self-tyrany to act in the world.

But, as we very well know, tyrannies don’t work, people become resentful and seek vengeance, could it be that the same thing happens within us?

I believe it does. We care more for what others think than from what we think. This causes alot of anxiety, we seek approval everywhere but inside. Because we don’t really care about the person that is inside. I can say sometimes I ask to much to myself and don’t stop and wonder how do I really feel about everything. What is the truth, who’s truth am I following, why do I get mad or sad when someone does not approve of me?

We care more about others, even our pets, than we care about us.

Following this line of thought, now I get it, is what J. Peterson is trying to say when he says to treat yourself as somebody you are responsible to. In other words treat yourself as if you were someone you cared about.

This way of thinking seeds a new relationship don’t you think?

It’s like the revolution that promises freedom as a new leader has emerged, a leader thar cares and therefore leads more effectively, cause trust and symphaty is regained.

Tyranny is fragile, the ego of the tyrant is way to big, way to heavy even to move, maybe that is why people get tired all the time, because of that heavy load of ego that need to be carried around and protected from imagined attacks all the time.

But letting that go, sets us free.