So, you know that tomorrow is going to be a big day, you have tons of work to do, you need to do the laundry, and clean the house as well. So, superbly intelligent as you are, you plan ahead and go to sleep early by 9:30 PM. But, when you’re done flossing and brushing your teeth, you begin to hear people yelling next door, not long after, you begin to hear Rihanna’s singing through your walls. Apparently, your neighbor is having a party, awesome.
It’s still early and you don’t want to be the party pooper but by 2:00 AM you still cannot fall asleep and you know tomorrow is going to be a hard day.
Party’s over, you sleep around 3 hours and your alarm clock begins to ring.
Fantastic, now you need to wake up, tired as hell to work.
Curse your neighbor all you want, but you still need to get things done.
This situation sucks, I know, I get super grumpy when I don’t sleep and the more you grow up, the more you get days when you just can’t have enough rest. So, walking around all angry and grumpy is not going to do any good neither for you nor the persons around you. Grumpiness spreads, what begins with you, can finish with everyone else that meets you. Plus, if being tired is a hassle, adding grumpiness to it makes it a super hassle.
So what can you do about it?
First of all, you need to set up things straight and recognize them for what they are. Yes, it would’ve been awesome if your neighbor hadn’t had his birthday yesterday, but he had it and he celebrated it and it happened. The past will not change, so now you have to deal with being tired and grumpy, there is no way around it and there’s no changing it.
What you can change, however, is your desire.“Your primary desire, says Epictetus, should be your desire not to be frustrated by forming desires you won’t be able to fulfill.”
― William B. Irvine, A Guide to the Good Life: The Ancient Art of Stoic Joy
Tranquility comes first, always keep that in mind. If you’re cool with the world as it is, the world will be cool to you as well. So first step, chill bro/sis!.
You’re already tired, you’re not going to be able to change that, so stop wishing for it. Just doing this, will start to improve things, and give you space to think about what you can do to make your situation better. How about a nap? Some coffee? What can you actually do to make things a little bit better?
Wish for what you can do something about and you’ll begin to handle the grumpiness better.
Second, imagine your situation as a challenge or a game. You’re already grumpy and angry, so why not channel that energy towards a more positive and constructive midnset?
Imagine that what is truly happening is that the Stoic gods, who love you so much and want to see you thrive, are putting you to the test. The stoic gods want to make you practice your Stoic abilities to remain calmed and poised even though you are tired.
If you go about your day all grumpy you lose, but if you manage your day as best as can be and laugh at the fact that you’re super tired but still doing everything needed, you win.
And there it is, something that was a hassle, now became a challenge or a game.
Today is a Monday for me and I’m tired haha, so this has definitely helped.
Thanks for reading,
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