Do you want to hear a story?
So, one day, good old Mickey went to buy some groceries that his mom asked him to buy. Mickey put his blue cap on, grabbed the keys and backpack, and off he went to the general store. It was a beautiful day, the sun was high, it was neither too warm or too chill, the birds were singing, and the streets calm and easy. Mickey arrived at the store and bought the groceries, then he went back home and his mother cooked waffles for him, which he loved.
Amazing wasn’t it? Hahaha, ok, I know, I know it was boring I was just playing. Do you want to hear the real story?
OK! When Mickey arrived to the store, he encountered the idiot Collin Sanchez outside the general store with his friends having a peanut butter sandwich. The last time he had seen Collin he had grabbed his head and submerged it in a toilet still with feces on it, and there he was, the asshole, enjoying himself with his friends. Mickey didn’t want to go in, who knows what that psycho would do now. So he waited until they finished and they left to the park nearby. He needed to be really careful now, so he went on to the store to buy the stuff as quickly as possible and get back home. He finished buying his mom’s stuff and began heading back to his house. He crossed the street and when he made a turn in the corner, there he was, fucking Collin Sanchez, with a wide smile on his face, ‘oh shit’ was the thought on Mickey’s head.
Ok, that’s better, isn’t it? For a story to be a good story, it needs to have some drama. That’s the point I wanted to make with Mickey’s story.
Do you want to know the end? Sure, Mickey thought to himself that this was the moment to stand up for himself, he wasn’t going to take any more shit (pun intended) so he grabbed the pickle jar and threw it directly into Collin’s head, he knocked him down while at the same time yelling to the other kids that he wasn’t fucking around and that he was going to eat their parents if they didn’t back off. It worked, Mickey went home proud.
No drama, no fun.
The same is true for your life. I think you are not hearing any novelty when I tell you that life is full of drama and events that will put you, just like Mickey, to the test.
Now, they are going to happen, no doubt about it. So, whenever you meet with drama, there are two ways in which you can go about it.
The first one is as a victim. With this one, you cannot do much other than cry and ask for help. I do not recommend this one.
The second one is as a hero. The hero needs adversity to be a hero, he needs challenges to test his skills and values. Whenever he is confronted with adversity, he will:
“Every difficulty in life presents us with an opportunity to turn inward and to invoke our own submerged inner resources. The trials we endure can and should introduce us to our strengths…Dig deeply. You possess strengths you might not realize you have. Find the right one. Use it.”
Epictetus, The Art of Living
Until next time,
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