A stoic, is a buddhist with an attitude.
Nassim Nicholas Taleb
What are manners?
Manners are behaviors, behaviors are of the way we conduct and act through life, they are attitudes and actions.
Manners spring from character and character is force.
What is true force?
The force is our star, our inner star.
Not dependant, not on opinions, not on people, not on anything, it is like the sun, it radiates force and energy,the force is a fiery fire consuming itself, everything thrown at it makes it stronger, it makes the fire antifragile (it gains more from everything).
Manners are a matter of antifragility, (read Antifragile by Nassim Nicholas Taleb).
Manners make a man antifragile, man gains strength and power by using them.
What would be the system of manners? that is a great question, how do manners work. What are they for?, lets see.
Manners are ways of being, they are forms of how to do something, how to conduct ones actions and attitudes more specifically.
Manners are beautiful and forgotten, they cement correct human relationship, makes human contact more true and emphatic.
There are the two big realms when it comes to manners. Attitude and Actions.
These are the two fundamentals.
This is the inner game of stoicism, and this is as we very well know profoundly important. This is where it all begins, this is where the star makes the first fusion reaction that conceives great character.
Stoic manners begin with the stoic attitude.
The Buddhists are detached, but the Stoics in comparison, are detached AND active, they wage wars, either in commerce or some other worthy need.
There is one thing you need to know.
If you see the buddha in the road, kill him and Marcus Aurelius as well.
This is all you need to know to get your attitude right, there are no right ways, but there is your way, be your own Buddha and your way will be the truth.
Ralph Waldo Emerson famously said, that envy is ignorance and imitation is suicide. Truth is something to be searched and offered from the inside to the outside.
There is nothing truer, than your way.
This is the greatest contribution anyone can make.
If we are to search for truth, we are to search within, and let action spring from within. this is where truth comes from, and this is where right attitude comes from.
There are some traits that diverse right attitudes have, but don’t let this mislead you, as your aim has to be your way.
Willingness for action, Amor Fati.
Willingness, you have to be willing to face life. This can also be seen as courage but that is more an attribute so willingness, that is more actionable, always be willing to engage.
What you resists, persist. Amor fati, is an act of courage and acceptance, life is a messy business, and as messy as it is, you have to take it, be it something good or something bad. Due to our western perception of the word “love”, you can stumble into believing that the act of loving everything is something of a romantic relationship to life, disgusting. The word love is so much more powerful, I’d prefer to use the definition that psychologist Jordan B. Peterson used that is of the acceptance and worthiness of being itself, the worthiness of existence, the contrary is nihilism and hell. Amor fati gains a new aura if you think about it this way, this is love of everything, love of existence, as messy and chaotic as it may be sometimes, Amor fati is the conscious action of acceptance and non-resistance to what is, it is an act of courage, it is an act of defiance.
This is because the search is over, the only search that is left is the truth search, your truth. Nothing outside of yourself is to be searched, those are only ghosts, fleeting ghosts.
This is why you are no longer reactive, you can think of it like not searching for cool, but more like being cool, this is how action springs from the self, from truth.
Higher thinking and creativeness
When you act from within, you do your own thinking, and you make your own fun, this is harder, it requires more mental stamina, and we are not used to it.
You become the creator, not the consumer, the creator of awesomeness, of business, of plans. You become the problem solver, not the problem reactor.
You are free, you do not longer have to wait for someone or something to happen, when attitude springs from within, you are free to take action, your action which gives you clarity of intent.
Now that attitude is settled, action comes.
Stoic action, is quality action. How we do anything we do everything.
When the attitude is right and it comes from truth, from personal truth. We are ready for right action.
Quality is making everything as fine as we can possibly can.
From walking as honorable, as great as Alexander the great.
When speaking, speaking as good as Socrates.
When doing anything, doing it as finely as it can be made.
Quality action is made from two things, and that is attention and caring.
Attention is catching everything, every detail, every word, every movement, we are fully awake, and caring puts your star’s warmth into it.
Quality can be intuitively felt.
Great beer, great whisky, is made with this intention, with the fire from within and the attention that it needs.
This is the stoic manners.